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When I asked around to a few women what they like about Bad Boys they answered some things like:
Love and sex is stronger when it has intense emotions. The nice guy is like taking Amtrak whereas the bad boy is like a roller-coaster. Nice guys can be manipulative. Sure they are always nice to you, but it is just to get others to be nice back to them, and that isn't real or natural for lovers.
There's no challenge in nice guys. Women like a challenge and want to be able to reform a bad boy. It's more flattering for a bad boy to like you. It is more special for a guy to treat most of the people he meets like jerks, but treats you nicely
Another said this about Bad boys: The last guy i was with was kind, gentle, respectful of my needs and gave me everything I wanted, and never disagreed with me. I HATED IT!
The guy I am with now is all these things... but will put me in my place when I need to be. I find that very often, I need to be put in my place. He is not afraid to tell me I am wrong. That I am being a brat or just being plain ridiculous. and even if i whine and try to get my way, he won't give in to me if he really thinks he is right.
I need a knock-down, drag-out fight every once in a while. well, maybe not literally, no one wants to be hit or anything like that, but there are times that I need to argue.
You can't argue with someone who always says "you're right, princess... anything you say, angel".
It's nice to be indulged, sure; but how can you respect someone who kisses your ass? Yuck!!!, give me a guy who will stand up to me, and I will be his forever.
Another‘s comment was: I am attracted to bad boys for the more masculine reason (I like to think my man can protect me if need be) but also because the super nice guys I have met get caught up in the status quo and end up getting really lazy in the relationship and their own lives. I would love to find a super nice guy who can embrace the excitement of everyday life and the relationship, but I haven't found it yet.
Somebody who can be labeled as a bad boy is masculine. He has a ton of confidence. Women find this trait of extreme confidence very attractive. It has nothing to do with looks. It has to do with his attitude and his beliefs. It draws women on a emotional level and when emotions and logic come together more often than not if the emotion is powerful enough the emotions win.
One of the things that we teach at Fidentia is to take the traits of a Bad boy, an alpha male and take the good parts without the bad. Most high self esteem women do not want anybody who will abuse them. They want somebody who cares for them also. The combination of a bad boy , jerk with a sensitive caring guy is the atom bomb of seduction. It is the best of both worlds. The guy who believes in himself and goes after what he wants but still allows himself to care for others rates high on a scale for a lot of women.